Life lessons teaching – and travelling – have taught me

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That expression “Jack of all trades, Master of none” used to really irritate me, probably because it summed me up quite well yet seemed to have negative connotations.  In my 20s I was really quite sensitive to the fact that I seemed to have dromomania (an insatiable desire to travel – so much so, there’s a word for it!).  I felt there was something wrong with me.  Then I entered my 30s and thought “Sod it!  I am who I am…I’m not going to change.  Why worry what others think of you?”

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Photo by Blanka (Pixabay)

My life settled down somewhat (much to my patient parents relief) in my 30s while I went back to college and then onto a three year Undergrad Degree programme in International Relations…but then all that talk of foreign countries, different cultures and different ways of thinking only brought back my dromonania.  And so – with pride – I continued to be a ‘jack of all trades.’
Here I reflect on some of the life lessons that travelling has taught me…on how being exposed to different cultures, and even weather, can shape people.  And life lessons from teaching in foreign countries…how languages affect culture.

Photo by wjgomes (Pixabay). We must understand expressions and language in different cultures

It’s important, I feel – particularly in the times we are living in now – to understand cultures and how language and weather shapes a culture.  We can all learn from the countries we visit, whether it’s a short city break or longer time away.
By applying these life lessons learnt on my travels, I hope to become a better person.  Most have been humorous experiences…I feel blessed to be a “Jack of all trades.”

1. Being spat on in Greece is not necessarily a bad thing

I wrote a post here about some of the customs in my adopted country.  One of them, particularly by some elderly people, is to make a spitting sound and motion towards you.  It’s seemingly quite random, and even weirder, seems to follow a kind act undertaken by yourself!
Example: In my first few weeks in Greece, I was helping an old woman pack her shopping into bags at the check-out.  When we’d finished, she made this phlegmy noise and flicked her hands towards me, as if she wanted to flick spit at me.  What on earth?!
Hear me out: Apparently, if you do a kind act, some elderly Greeks believe you might get jealously given to you, so they try to get ride of the evil jealousy by throwing something negative at it/you (are you following)?  Because after all, why would jealousy want to hang out with someone with spit on them?!
OK, admittedly it’s not actual spittle, but you get the gist, I think.

Life Lessons: Not all negative and seemingly aggressive acts in a foreign country are as they seem.

2. Telling someone to ‘give me’ something, and not using the phrase ‘Please pass me (the salt)’, for example, is not necessarily a sign of rudeness.

Ahh us Brits, we’re so excessively polite aren’t we?  We insert ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ so many times into just one sentence, it’s a wonder we actually get out what we really want to say.
When I started teaching English in Greece a few years back, I was amazed that the younger kids would come up to me and say
“Miss, give me a pen” or “Miss, give me a piece of paper.”  You can read more here.
At first I would admonish them for not being polite, until I became more aware of the Greek language and in Greek, they don’t use ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ anywhere near as much as the English language does.  In fact, as a culture they find it odd to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ to someone they know…and my example above?  Why would you, therefore, say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ to a member of your own family?!  It’s reserved completely for strangers.

Life Lessons: Take time to actually understand the structure of another culture’s language before judging them when they speak English.  At least they are making an effort to speak English.
Or if you don’t have the time or the  luxury to understand their language, when someone speaks to you in English in a foreign country, whether on a short break or holiday, don’t necessarily jump to a negative conclusion as to their tone of voice/use of words.

Which leads me nicely onto example #:

3. More about language usage.

This time I will use the example of a short break I was on.  I had visited Iceland with a friend (way before I ever started blogging) and we wanted to know where to find a certain restaurant.
We popped down to the Reception of our hotel and I asked the receptionist.  The conversation went as follows:

Me: “Do you know where ….. restaurant is please?”
Receptionist: “Yes.”

Silence, in which my friend and I glance at each other.

Me: “Could you tell me where it is then please?”
Receptionist: “Of course, let me get you a map.  Now then……”

Life Lessons (and note to self): Icelandic receptionist was not being rude or ironic, she was merely answering my question.  I should have asked her: “Could you please tell me where the ….. restaurant is?” and she would have done that from the outset.

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Photo by OpenClipart-Vectors (Pixabay) Not all language – and gestures – are rude

4. More humility is needed (this is my favourite life lesson from travelling)

I was teaching English in Sri Lanka and at the end of my first week, on the Friday, the bell had rung and instead of rushing out of the door, the children all lined up and, one by one, proceeded to bow at my feet.
At first I was horrified, merely because my initial reaction was that I felt I didn’t deserve it.
The headmaster came in and explained to me that it is normal, in Sri Lankan culture, to show respect to their elders and especially teachers who are educating them to better themselves.   As an addition; I had the right to refuse it, but it would severely insult them.

Life Lessons: Sometimes, even if we feel we’re not worthy, we need to accept that others feel we are and accept they will show it to us.  And we must accept it with grace and respect.  It’s humbling, it really is.

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Photo by kwankwan Sri Lanka

5. Just because a culture takes a siesta does not mean they are lazy

Oh this is a pet peeve of mine!  Ever since southern European countries have been taken to task by the north – especially Greece – I see so much printed in the press about this put upon country.
So I would like to clear something up – and this involves weather and climate…a factor I mention in my Introduction to this piece;

Weather dictates so much of how we live our lives.  The southern European countries lead an outdoor lifestyle: cafes, coffee culture, ‘three hour’ lunches because their weather is gorgeous enough to warrant it.  In fact, in the summer when temperatures can reach 40 degrees in the cities, smaller shops will open early, close in the afternoon for a few hours then re-open when it’s cooler.
And the same applies to businesses too.  In fact, I have managed to get a dental and Dr’s appointment at 8pm at night!  I know for a fact you can’t do that in Britain.

Life Lessons: The weather and climate dictates how a culture goes about their daily life.  Don’t judge them for it or draw harsh conclusions because it differs from your own.

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Photo by pedrosimoes7

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2 COMMENTS

  1. Such great lessons learned, that double as helpful tips! It’s always important to look beyond the surface to truly learn about new cultures, rather than measuring every interaction by our own familiar standards. Thanks for this reminder.

  2. Those are some interesting ones, especially the ‘give me’ one. I think this is just because in Britain, we’re brought up to very polite to everyone. I think other countries are more direct in their conversations!

    • That’s right Tom. And language effects how we’re perceived, etc. Since my travels I’ve come to the conclusion that actually, we’re excessively polite to everyone and as the students used to say to me, ‘But Miss, how does anyone in your country ever say what they really mean?’
      Very astute observation.

  3. Really great read! I agree with most of these – especially the ‘give me’ one. I always find myself muttering ‘please’ under my breathe but brush it off in reality, as yup, we’re British!

    • We are so polite! But it’s a good thing in a lot of respects…and I think it’s good to remind ourselves that just because a culture doesn’t use ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ all the time does not make them impolite – they have other ways of being warm and showing warmth. It’s all culturally relative.

  4. I do find this quite fascinating and can relate to many of the same issue but from different perspectives. As an American in Ecuador, I have aimed to teach my children to be polite and proper..in the language of THIS country. It has made me absolutely insane there there is not a way to say “May I ?” or “Can I?!. They are basically views as an oxymoron..or saying the same thing twice. The perspective is…of course you can, just ask it. We often get funny looks for using please and thank you excessively as well. And siesta here, I think is less about the weather but is more about family and savoring life. Even the poorest of the poor, believe that they have earned and deserve to enjoy a least a few hours of the day. They spend this time doing absolutely nothing, except to sleep or play with the babies. I think it is aching beautiful.

    • I’m so glad this piece resonated with you Stephanie, and you were able to see it from your angle, living in Ecuador. It’s great to embrace other cultures isn’t it.
      Yes, when I spend time in Greece, I notice how they actually distrust people who are excessively polite as they feel it is ungenuine. And actually, the longer I stay here, the more I can see their point.
      I love learning from different cultures and therefore becoming more humble and questioning myself. It’s an excellent learning curve about human nature.

  5. I find your lessons learned very helpful. As not native English speaker I found this one especially good: “Take time to actually understand the structure of another culture’s language before judging them when they speak English.” Thanks for sharing.

    • Thanks Anita. I believe it’s very, VERY important to not judge people by our own standards and language.
      I remember teaching Italian kids once, and I kept thinking they were saying they were ‘angry’ but they were talking about lunch, and I wondered why they were angry about lunch, until I realised they were saying ‘hungry’!

  6. Great (and useful) lessons learned. Traveling, like any experience that bring us out of our comfort zone, is a great teacher. Contacting with different cultures and understand why different people act differently is a powerful way of stretching our flexibility.

    • Glad you can see what point I was aiming for (in a lighthearted way) Maria! I believe this as well, ESPECIALLY in the times we’re currently experiencing. Even if it’s just a short break to a city, seeing how people interact every day in a culture is important to our understanding.
      I am also a firm believer that climate plays a huge role in shaping cultures.

  7. Interesting live lessons I can use when traveling. Cultural differences are so important. I once heard an adult yelling at a young boy who wouldn’t look him in the eye. In the boy’s culture that was rude. We need more tolerance!

    • I am a firm, firm believer that we need to teach tolerance to others and this could help bring down a lot of barriers. And more often than not, it’s adults and NOT children that have the intolerance issues! Children are the most adaptable and, quite frankly, don’t care where another kid is from. So long as that kid is friendly and they can play together – so what where they’re from or what cultural nuances exist?
      We ourselves can learn a lot from kids.
      We also need to respect that other cultures are NOT wrong, just because they have different nuances from our own.

  8. These are such great points! I am learning Greek and can attest that grammar in another language is hard! I am happy if I can get my point across in Greek–heck with the grammar, so being patient with those whose first language isn’t the one they are speaking is worth noting.

    • Glad you could relate to this post Lesli. Yes, I think we should be grateful that other nations bother to speak to us in English…I know in the UK, they don’t push learning a foreign language very much at school.

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